Lessons you can share with your kids or with your inner child.
#6 Happiness is an inside job!
What I’d like to share with you today is that it is not your responsibility to keep anyone else happy – you simply can’t. You may have noticed that a parent or sibling is sad no matter how good or careful you are around them. You are only responsible for your own happiness and it is important not to give away your happiness to anyone or anything else. What I mean by that is that it is very typical to think “I’ll be happy when mum is happy” or “I’ll be happy if I get a good mark on my test”. That puts the source of your happiness outside you and the truth is that happiness is an inside job! The source of our happiness is within us. It is good to know.
If we are responsible for our own happiness it means that:
And guess what? When you are happy, others are likely to feel better as well. Everyone wants to be around a happy person – we like to associate with them because it rubs off on us. You can be that popular happy person. Our mind has the power to be happy whatever the external circumstances happen to be.
Sometimes just knowing that happiness is in us at all times can help us be happier. We just can’t always see that it is there.
Find a quiet place, then close your eyes. Imagine putting all your worries into a balloon, then watch it float away until it disappears high in the sky. Now, FEEL the lightness and space inside you where happiness lives. Have a go!
I know firsthand the emotional and financial costs of having a troubled teenager and I don’t want that to happen to you. That's why I wrote my book What They Don't Teach in Prenatal Class: The Key to Raising Trouble-Free Kids and Teens (available on Amazon).