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Lessons you can share with your kids or with your inner child. #10 Accepting things as they are feels better than wanting things to be differentI want my mom to buy me candy at the checkout counter. I wish my grandmother didn’t have cancer. I wanted to win the high jump but came second. There’s a line that’s worth remembering “You can be right or you can be happy!” You can be right that you deserve to have candy and that your mom is not being fair, or you can be happy accepting that “no” is the answer and it doesn’t mean anything other than that you are not going to get any candy at the checkout. It does not mean that your mom doesn’t love you or that you are a bad kid! Your worth is intact.  You can be right that your grandmother should live forever and not have to suffer, but this thinking will lead to struggling with your emotions. Accepting the situation as it is will lead to more peace and a greater ability to extend love to your grandmother. You can be happy knowing that you have love to give.
You can be right (and miserable) knowing that if only conditions had been a bit different you would have won the high jump, or you can be happy accepting that you came second. Second is a great result and you can share in the winner’s happiness. Your worth has not changed at all. In all of these examples you can cast the event as a neutral fact and see that your upset is not about the event but about your thoughts about the event. By looking at your upset, being a feelings finder and a thought detective, you can identify the beliefs that are driving your upset feelings and you can correct them. Eventually you’ll be able to understand that everything that happens can be used to heal your false beliefs. That’s a major positive shift in thinking. Action Step: Notice all the times in a day something happens that you wish was different. How does that feel? What happens when you accept those same things as they are without resistance? Make sure to remind yourself that your worth has not changed as a result of whatever happened.
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Anne Andrew
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